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How do you know someone? How do you get to know someone?
Is it a matter of time's passage, or of time spent together? That implies that you're listening, observing, and thinking about what you've heard and observed. But how much of that is fiction, created by your own past experience and your assumptions about motivations and background?
( 5 things you might know from watching me )
Does it come from conversations? If the person you know is the person who is now, his history has contributed to the present version. However, a person is not her history, not if she grows and changes. All people change over time, whether with intent or by having change imposed. Even our memories about our histories change. Whether or not "time turns all memories into good ones", the forward movement that puts chronological distance between now and the event muddles the memory. Try it. Write an event of today down in as much detail as you can, including your emotional impressions. In a few months or a year, go back to what you have written.
( 5 things in my history )
Sometimes, thelies stories we tell ourselves are there to free us.
Or is it through some other way? When you say to yourself, I know her, what do you mean? When you think, I don't know anything about him, what do you mean? What do you want to know?
( 5 things I've probably never told you )
Is it a matter of time's passage, or of time spent together? That implies that you're listening, observing, and thinking about what you've heard and observed. But how much of that is fiction, created by your own past experience and your assumptions about motivations and background?
( 5 things you might know from watching me )
Does it come from conversations? If the person you know is the person who is now, his history has contributed to the present version. However, a person is not her history, not if she grows and changes. All people change over time, whether with intent or by having change imposed. Even our memories about our histories change. Whether or not "time turns all memories into good ones", the forward movement that puts chronological distance between now and the event muddles the memory. Try it. Write an event of today down in as much detail as you can, including your emotional impressions. In a few months or a year, go back to what you have written.
( 5 things in my history )
Sometimes, the
Or is it through some other way? When you say to yourself, I know her, what do you mean? When you think, I don't know anything about him, what do you mean? What do you want to know?
( 5 things I've probably never told you )
